The saddest aspect of life right now is that science gathers knowledge faster than society gathers wisdom. - Isaac Asimov
I’m also finding out that if we live long enough, we will pass through and survive enough that we too will come to “know” a few things. That’s certainly been the case for me.
I thought l share a few of the things I’ve come to know in hope of inspiring you to take an inventory of your own “knowings.” The great thing about knowings is they’re the mistakes we don’t need to keep making over and over - we’ve finally messed up enough to have figured them out once and for all! So in no particular order here are mine:
I know that no amount schooling, formal or informal, will ever give you wisdom.
It will give you knowledge to be sure. Wisdom however, comes from experience. It comes from trying and succeeding and even more from trying and failing. It comes from “seeing for yourself” and that takes time. You can’t buy, sell, or borrow experience. Experience is how we internalize knowledge in a way that makes it meaningful and gives it relevance.
It also does no good to try to impart wisdom on someone else. It’s like that awkward moment at the end of a story where your audience gives you a forced chuckle and smiles nervously while saying “I guess you had to be there.” That’s just it! We all have to “be there” to really get it. There have been some experiences in my life that I hope no one will ever understand - because it would require them to “have been there”
There are other things - joy, conviction, and communion with wisdom outside myself, that I’d love to share but can’t. It remains locked inside a life lived and moments experienced and belongs, for better or worse, only to me.
I know that the walls we build around our hearts, end up hurting us more than they protect us.
Walls aren’t selective. They can block out hurt, but they also block out love and joy. Love can be painful. Sometimes the people we love break our hearts into tiny shards - and then we recover. We share an imperfect world with imperfect people, while being imperfect. Those are the rules like it or not.
Sometimes pain is inflicted on us. At other times we inflict pain - sometimes intentionally and at others without intending to. Something as simple as personal preferences can cause another to feel hurt. There are some things that just hurt - there’s no way around it, but there is no heartache that hurts more or lasts longer than the aching heart, hungering for the love it refuses to let in.
I know that I don’t know everything.
Every day there is something wonderful to discover and others to observe as they’re making discoveries of their own. I’ve even given up pretending I know everything (despite what my husband may say to the contrary!) How would it be if everyone did?
I know that people are more alike than they are different.
We all need love, respect, to feel valued and validated. If we lead with these assumptions, we may get disappointed from time to time. I’m willing to take that risk. Love first, ask questions later. I’ve made that my personal policy because I like myself better that way.
I know it's a really bad idea to open a tube of crazy glue with your mouth.
It's amazing what a tight bond it creates between your upper teeth and your top lip! Enough said.
I know that cat's jumping off mantles do not want to be caught.
I have proof and for a quarter you can see the scars.
Each life is a treasure chest filled with nuggets of wisdom. Open yours. Sort through it. Share what you can and sacredly savor the rest. Each nugget is priceless. Gathering them is why we’re here. Live your life in a way that allows you time to notice them sprinkled along your path.
I'd love for you to hear about the nuggets you've gathered! Caring is sharing!
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